What if husband doesnot want divorce?

Do you really love her???then go talk to her....ask her why she wants to seperate...What about her parents, do they also want you to seperate, are they helping you ??And trust me if she really wants the seperation, try to forget her...it will be really hard but then you will see its better to be alone then to live with someone who does not love you...

prakash,i read what you have written. its the same for me. i am married since 3yrs.but out of those 3 yrs i have stayed only for 1 and half yr. the rest i was with my parents because my in laws and my husband was not ready to accept me .it was then i realized that i have been cheated. i was very shocked and could not control myself.i am also badly in love of my husband. but i thing i felt that the no. of times i approach to him he felt that i cant live without him and that he can misuse my love for him and also play with my feelings. its true that we love are partner very much and are ready to do whatever for him. but he does not respect our feelings and after all in the name of love we cant lose our self-respect. we at the most are dying inside for that person who does not even care for us. i know it is very difficult to go under such situation.but than to be firm. you have tried your best to make her understand your feelings.but if she is just playing with you and your feelings just because you love her madly,put a full stop and really find someone who is worthy of your love and who have undergone the same situation so that you both can live happily because you both will be bonded together with the bonds of the sufering that you have undergone and will try to keep each other happy as well as the people around you. all the best.

Hi Prakash. I agree with Dipti and Tejaswi. First of all find out what your wife wants and a reason for her behaviour. Normally its both parts mistakes etc that creates situations like this, if you have said something wrong or done something wrong , then ask for forgiveness,…… But if you know that its not your fault and still she is just playing with you, then get out of it as soon as possible. ( hope you don’t have any kids yet ? ) That will just make things even more complicated , spec for the poor kids who will be the innocent victims. With love it’s always”GIVE AND TAKE ", it can’t be like a one way thing. All the best, Dev

harish i have read your statement ,dont be surprised these days it is common that married womens have extra materinal affiars.i think if she has suddenly behaves peciuliar this could be the reason, please investigate the matter & you r very much right now a days they use the legal system to tourcher the in laws since i had gone through this .

Prakash I cant understand one thing if you wanting your wife to come back why the hell are you on second shaadi.com ? Why are you not going and explaining and talking with her instead of using this forum for others to sympathise with you.. well first of all you being on secondshaadi.com is your answer do i need to say anything else? but the fear of the divorce itself is what is your problem. There is no need to comment on anyones wife or husband regarding cheating, this is the most common excuse that is raised when really it could be that*people do not get on at all and it was not a match made in heaven. you have your own answer in your hands, you created your profile on this site for a second shaadi..? thats why all are here.....my god............. i wish luck to your wife and also to you. I hope you dont have sour taste after reading this im pretty factual to what im seeing.

Well, Jaanvi is brutally honest with her diagnosis! Appreciate that. It could also be possible that he is just confused. This could happen in the very first months/year(s) of marriages and especially if it was an arranged one! For most of us Desis, who stayed single and got married to someone whom we did not know earlier it is certainly not easier (than said) to understand and start loving the partner for being her/him self from day one. Of course, the mentality of "you are mine" would kill any marriage as the partner is nobody's possession but a uniquely created, uniquely capable and independent person . This could be worse if the couple get to move to an entirely new location/country where u r left on your own. Misunderstandings and lack of effective communication could break a married relationship. To be short, if you only still believe in making ur marriage work, there are better marriage counseling places in India these days (result of more intolerance to each other and increasing divorces). It would be nice for oneself, who is going through the agony of being separated from the partner for various reasons, to go have a consultation with a good marriage counselor. If you have realized the mistakes from ur part or convinced that it could help ur marriage flourish again then it is time to go see the counselor with your spouse/partner. Remember NOT to use the marriage counseling to just open up and spit on each othe but honestly try to understand ur partner and ask openly for help. I am sure you could still make it working as long u believe in it and determined. Guess what, not matter how many times one gets married, she/he has to do a hell of a homework with lots of patience to make a co-living a pleasing and rewarding one. Because we are just human and being human we are stupid many times. The best thing that we possess as human beings is the capability to forget (intentionally or naturally) and forgive and move on, though at time it takes time. Lets wish him good luck with his decision (whatever it is!)

Jaanvi Prakash I cant understand one thing if you wanting your wife to come back why the hell are you on second shaadi.com ? Why are you not going and explaining and talking with her instead of using this forum for others to sympathise with you.. well first of all you being on secondshaadi.com is your answer do i need to say anything else? but the fear of the divorce itself is what is your problem. There is no need to comment on anyones wife or husband regarding cheating, this is the most common excuse that is raised when really it could be that*people do not get on at all and it was not a match made in heaven. you have your own answer in your hands, you created your profile on this site for a second shaadi..? thats why all are here.....my god............. i wish luck to your wife and also to you. I hope you dont have sour taste after reading this im pretty factual to what im seeing.

Prakash I cant understand one thing if you wanting your wife to come back why the hell are you on second shaadi.com ? Why are you not going and explaining and talking with her instead of using this forum for others to sympathise with you.. well first of all you being on secondshaadi.com is your answer do i need to say anything else? but the fear of the divorce itself is what is your problem. There is no need to comment on anyones wife or husband regarding cheating, this is the most common excuse that is raised when really it could be that*people do not get on at all and it was not a match made in heaven. you have your own answer in your hands, you created your profile on this site for a second shaadi..? thats why all are here.....my god............. i wish luck to your wife and also to you. I hope you dont have sour taste after reading this im pretty factual to what im seeing.

what is that you wanted to express bhanwar? looks like u r experiencing trouble posting ur opinion.... can u try posting it again?

hai !Samay& jaanvi you are talking a lot plz have a coffie &candle lite dinner&hello! i am weating for sweets also ha.. ha....... when any body confusedthen plz help him bcoz you both r expienced. well prakash!apne dil pe hath rakhkar pochoo ki tum apne risto ke prati kitne imandar ho? yadi tum use pagalpan ki had tak chahte ho to ek kosis aor karo.ydi fir bhi koi parinam nahi milata hai to yathrth ko swikar karo kyoki wo afsana jise anjam tak lana na ho mumkin use ek kubsurat mod dekar chdna acha. tumare dil me ye sukun to rehega ki tum apne sathi ke prati ant tak emandar thee.ye koi jaruri nahi ki hum jise chahte ho use pa le ab to uske bano jo tumhe chahta ho tumahri khubioaur kahmiyo ke sath!,aur han kanuni karyvahi se darte kyu ho? kismat ka likha ho ke rahta hai, so be bold,have the right disicion. aor han itna yad rakhana har kali rat ke picha sunahra saver hota hai..all the best... prabhakar