Unreasonable divorce process in India. Your thoughts?

WELCOM * the world of unfairness ...dude ....yep its kindda crazy on here ....i filed f div sumtimes n **** & ultimatley got m divorce in march ****, that too aftr moving the supreme court ....... it kindda just carried on & on f years , my ex was stubborn , got really messy.....ultimatley wen the SC was moved they set up a mediation bench consisting of * judges , we were both asked to come to delhi ...& for * days these judges kept meeting us with our lawyers ...presto on the *th day finally the settlements were made & i was kindda breathing free at last ....else it can carry on f ** yrs or more , thats the kindda shit laws we have n our country .....

Hi dude, In this world men require*things. 1. money 2.pussy. but women require only money. so get rid of your case by paying money because it's difficult to offer a pussy for the lawmakers and people asscociated with the law. just offer money, money and money....

Hi, i too am a victim of the same sort. My wife neither wants to live with me, nor wants a divorce. I filed for divorce in **** and still haven't got it. i'm struggling for the past *yrs. In the court she says 'i don't want a divorce, i want to live with him', but out side the court she bluntly insults me in every possible way. i have*children, both are very fond of me and i love them a lot. Even though i've been spending a lot on my children like their clothes, uniforms, school stuff,taking them out and things like that.But she is not allowing me to see them now. On top of it, she filed for a maintenance. I felt, providing for my children is my duty, so i didn't put up a big fight over it, and started paying the amount. Our legal system is so old fashioned and moving things at their own pace. There is no regard for individual human being's and cases are being dealt with, in a generalized manner. Like Srinivas said, women want only money. Unfortunately i don't have money. If i had, i would have thrown it on her face and get rid of her and possessed my children.

Totally agree with Srinivas..... Very true mate...

There is no value for Individual's life in India. On the name of scoial fabric called family & marriage, gloden days of life gets ruined if got trapped in bad marriage. Indian system is blind towards one gender i.e. female. I think India can't be on*boarts, i.e. adopt west culture for speration, but when comes to divorce be conservative, by n't giving it. In west, every individual has value for his/her life. Here valuable times gets wasted either in struggle with faulty/biased systems. Some one need to change it in big way. Only Indian Goverment can change it.

only way is for men to unite and fight it out for equal rights with women. 498a and DV are heavily misused.

only way is for men to unite and fight it out for equal rights with women. 498a and DV are heavily misused.

I really don’t have anything against my wife, still have respect for her. In the beginning (****) – I was much immature (perhaps in emotion and man woman relation till date) and due to some ego from my side, the distance made between us. And it was keep on increasing in several way in many forms. I tried many times to compromise and adjust- but I couldn’t. Several women came in my life (no one through professional life). Now I am realizing, before it’s further late for both of us, it has to be done. We are sleeping in different rooms last ** months, didn’t intercourse last ** months (not more than * in last * years). But I cant live in this manner anymore. I am regularly taking drugs for sleeping, pressure and cholesterol and ant depression as prescribed by physician. Before it affects my job performance, I want to end it. I can take everything else, but not a bad performance of myself at workplace. *st I want to change my marital status. I can’t act anymore everyday in home, and want to be fair at least this time to my wife. I know lots of odds will come from my mother and relatives. I have to shift for a separate residence (like I did in July ****), might face financial crunch also. But still I have to do this, my mother is also suffering last few months, guessing my mental condition, and unfortunately in spite of my trying - relation between wife and mother isn’t healthy yet. My wife stopped using Sindoor. I am ** now, so still have some courage left. But after this it wont be possible. Even in my professional life, people wont take it easily. Still I want to take my own black spots, my failure- to the public, at least to the people who matters; cant play hide and seek game anymore. I stopped myself several times; thinking about my son, but truly speaking he almost doesn’t have any emotional relation with me. Its all my fault, as he saw, his mother is away from me- he also started maintaining a distance. So, please don’t say me to rethink this time. The issue was already pushed for **years- but nothing changed. I shall fulfill all their (wife and son) other need like now, but not by staying together anymore. I know healthy parent relationship is essential for kids to grow. But the way I am living is not a healthy way, staying apart is a far better option surely. Feelings of*human beings are involved in a couple’s married life. This could not be patched up by enforcement of law by courts. It is up to the individuals to mend themselves. A horse can be taken to water but it is the horse that should drink it. However, the law should not deny divorce if the marriage has really broken down. By forcing unity with a hammer in the hand, the law does not serve the sanctity attached to the institution of marriage by religions. If the relationship of husband and wife wrecks beyond repair, what is wrong in recognizing that fact and allow them to live separately. How can one compel a wife or a husband to continue to live with spouse if they have fallen apart? If so compelled they would have to lead miserable life. My wife knows all of these but still not ready to divorce me- "just for my son” and her status to society! How to tackle her and HONURABLE INDIAN COURT?