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Sexual Tension

jaypie

India being a seat of prudery i do not know how many people will like my naming this topic what i have. But let us be bolder and afford to be real than taking resort to euphemisms of "emotional things" . I think sex is notthat ugly thing neaither talking about it as long as langauge is what it should be. I am goaded to start this topic after change in my attitude after facing sexual starvation after my divorce beacuse i liked sexless emotion than emotionless sex. As long as it was easily available to be through marriage institution i was same indian guy with lofty philosophy of Atma than indulgence in as mundane thing as Sex except for Reproduction . But now when i am deprived of it and it is making its way to my spines to my adraline it is very difficult to cope with this situation. I am not oversexed but when i am not getting what should a young normal guy get it is devastating for my mental health. The other outlets which are available outside marriage are more hazardous than this asexual state of existence. I do not know how others feel but it is very difficult for me to handle the plight. I am doing Yoga, reading Spiritous books but with little avail.Then i had short fling with my lady boss but it proved to be a havoc for me.beacuse later i found her to be very possessive and ultimately i have to apply my brain and tact to hilt to free myself from her.taking divorce was not as difficult as snapping realtion with this boss. So here i am enjoying my sufferring of being alone. "mai aur meri tanhai"" What is way out ..? can anyone help and share his (i am omitting her knowingly because i do not think women have such problem beause at risk of stereotyping i believe they are near to asexual in this regard , at least my experience with indian female tells that they emotional thingy )problem honesly

Replies(7) | 2008-Sep-08

knrdinesh
30-Nov--1

i like you

knrdinesh
30-Nov--1

why ? just thing!

7219
30-Nov--1

Same feeling here, one more addition why to talk ony seperation or divroce condition, even in marrg. there are many people who r deprived of sex from his / her partner. So, Indian society and particulary Indian gals need to change in big way. Those attitudanal problem attached with sex shall be removed from gals mind. Live-in shall be seen as solution for sexual deprive and sex shall be made as fundamental right, as its an natural urge like u eate or breath.

sonal981
30-Nov--1

yes anshu, But gals cannot talk this as it is not allowed in the indian society I remember the days when me and my husband leavd together he use to work hard and come home late and also relative stay till one*months, so there was a very little privacy within us but when i spoke to my husband about it i was told as a wrong inian girl infact my husband told me that I am not a good lady to think about sex only is the proper guy and whrn he thinks about tht there is no right or wrong is not the ndan women to be change is the soc and men who live in this society need to chnage his mind

ellangoaru
30-Nov--1

Not much words i agree with sonal

rainbow1
30-Nov--1

Live in is no longer a solution of anything , guys has no problem in that bec they only wants to satisfy their body desire but girls suffered alot after that . not oly girls but everyone in indian society has to broaden their mind ............ sory I changed the topic but guys said that the indian society has to level headed their mind set but our youh specially guys stuck with the concept of virginity . they wants their wife to b virgin even hey r not ............ wat a double standard openmindedness

raghuvansh
01-May-09

preeti - i respect the words you say and on the basis of your line i can say your r in real sense 21st centuary girl. i m really enjoying the reading

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jay take ur phase as a passing phase...this too shall pass....yoga etc will do u gud ..only that it takes time....and u need to convert ur energies...into something else..u need to forcefully not think about it...and keep ur mind occupied...all the time....by constructive thinking...i think urs is a passing phase....may be a very long one..but if u indulge in any of that..it will only worsen u up...take up a hobby...do something worthwhile...follow Gandhijis talisman..help people who suffer more than u r...u will feel complete within.

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