which is best

Hi Sheeba.first u should need ur family support.becoz,your kid must not feel tht he/she does not have any relatives.& thus ur kid also willl feel so. its better if u come back to india to settle down in india. You should not get suffered again at u.k. Its enough after struggling a lot in uk lonely with your kid. Its not so easy to get the help frm UK government. You have to struggle a lot for housing & funds. Pls dont get confused. It will be very safe for u & as well as for ur kid to settle down in India. There is a proverb also. "When u r in Rome,be a Romain" so as when u r in India be an Indian." according to the situations we must try to change ourselves. So,its better to search for a life partner in India. all the best.God will bless you alwyas.

Hello Sheeba, I am sorry for your loss........but just be brave because these are the testing times in our lives. Since I don't know about your education and about the family, that is how suportive they are for you....so I am not sure what to suggest. But I personally feel that UK has many more opportunities of job than in India. It has much more open environment thus providing more avenues at every level. So what if you are not having any relatives there, I am sure you must be having some wonderful friends around, and trust me friends are more helpful than the relatives.......but yes then it all depends on personal experience. I agree that at this stage you need lots of emotional support, but then for how long? You need to be very practical. If possible call some one from your family to UK for some time, and take your time to settle down. And in all this please don't forget your child........talk to him as well and find out what he wants. All the best for your future and be happy always.

Dear sheeba, I sympthize with your state of affairs and i think you better settled india with relatives. If you want i want to help you

Very first, must feel relax! either here or U.K... given this i believe u like india again and it's facilities... at time it seems odd to see the people, but yes... very soon you will start liking it that i am sure!!!!! Pls. Take Care

hullo, you can see my profile'kuladaivam' in this portal and get back to me. I have plenty to suggest you for a permanent living there. There are people to help in the matter. If you are prepared to live anywhere in India, then be prepared to bear the noise, dust pollution, frauds and corruption etc everywhere. etc. etc. BITRA

Hey Friend, I am sorry what you have faced , pls give me your full profile to get you properly, just go through my profile in detail, and try to feel my problem, We can have a joint future as my son needs an intelligent and loving mother and your kid must deserve the same, I have some contacts in central london and a great contact in Hemel Hempstead, ( hertforshire ) London. You have family in India ,But I feel like alone in my family as well, I need a peace full life far away from India ,where I can't see any one's face in my family, dont take it otherwise what I am saying about my family but ....... so just go through my profile ,I can migrate to Uk, because a lot of opportunities are there and we can give a bright future to our Kids. Thanks & regard Neeraj Verma

first of just forget ur past ok and i know how difficult to settle down in india after returning for the UK coz it finds difficult for me either. just be happy that you are with the parents.regarding your search i just wanna give you the suggestion that, how was ur life before you hubby died? can anyone give you the same affection like him? can anyone accept your kid? dude if u r close with anyone whom u know and he is single and he knows bout ur problems just try once ok..can i tell u the truth after reading your article here in sceondshaadi.com, people come to get you coz u have the weapon PR and they don't need who r u and how u gonna be happy or make u happy or anything..just people want that they should get amrry to get the PR status..if u want the guy like those then u get many. don't need to go anywhere. in ur town u get the people like those but if u really wanna be happy and wanna stay cool then u have to test the chracters. YES WE ALL ARE SOCIAL ANIMALS and we need the supports. if not now then in future coz i too have the same ideas but now changed. no need to get confuse ok be cool and just justify the things now..dude it might be a london or the poor village in the india what ever it will be ..u need a good guy who can understand u and keep u happy ok. no need to struggle ..just make ur self free from all these thoughts and now u got chance to learn the things..go for the visits any where in india and after some time u get the right person ok..just cheerup and have faith on the time...time never cheat the right people. hope might be am wrong to those who read my answer but i'm right on my way. India is not only famous for the noise,dustpollution,frauds and corruption..it's also famous for the affection..don't read the stupid articles posted by some old minds...be happy with ur paretns..wait for few days u get a good guy..don't make ur self in the mud with the fast settlements....u didn't got married in a over night..it took some years to get a right person and now it gonna take few months to get the right person ok... u r not alone so many people in this world they don't have any family backgrounds and no one there to share the moments...just be please and be greatfull to the god for giving you the time to have with ur parents. trust me u get e right dude. god bless you.

Hi Sheeba , this is Ravi again, Sheeba, I remember you discussing about your in laws and how you felt about living without a husband in India. the bitter fact is, that our society is made that way, it was blindly followed from a long long time. but again it was for our own good in the past because, our indian women, you know were not allowed to go out earning for the family, a woman widowed followed sathi and all those stuff, woman earning in the family was treated as an insult, and so on, these are all symbols of superstitions and not anywhere close to fact's, I would suggest that you live in reality, it is you who have to decide willfully whether you wish to have a husband or not, or a father to your child which can complete your family.first of all, you might have been in sorrow of having lost your husband, on top of that the pressure you might have had from parents and relatives which might have weakened you and have made you worry much more. So You decide whether you would like to put you best forward or be submissive and allow the surroundings and circumstances take over, Decide as the more you delay, circumstances take over. I suggest you go back to London, (provided you are capable of getting a job) the place where you can live with dignity and self respect, where there is dignity of labor, believe me, once you start working these pains would be gone and you would start living your life. one more time, leave to U,K. let the pain subside and let you live your life. you can have an Indian partner but dont live here if you are able to find a job in U.K. You don't have any relative in UK, that's fine, it's safe there,as long as you are capable of working. I've had some friends who lived in U.K. who explained how safe it is when you live within the Indian community there. If you are not a working lady and prefer to stay home, then your choice of getting married now is right.

don't develop elephant attitude. success is not final and failure is not fatal it's the courage that counts .go ahead u can settle in london or in india chack out how u can lead a happy life in india? and the same in uk.single or married think all the possibilities bring them in white & black .write what u want to do & think over it my wishes with u may god bless u. with lots of love

Hi Sheeba... Well you can find a partner here in India too but as you said its difficult for you to adjust here, so this feeling would keep you hunting all the time specially after when your hunt for Mr. Right would be over if he's from India.... Its bit difficult to say that a Man from UK would also be right for you because i guess marriges are bit of destiny matter... I had married a girl from UK but we had a lot of culture differences as well as she wanted to live alone and i always preffered a joint family... it work out and we separated in 8 months... so its all upto you.. you really need to think hard that what actually is comfortable for you..dont think anyone here can help you out on this....Gud luck...