Indian Husband: a Vote Bank

A woman and a police officer, who allegedly tried to implicate a man in a dowry case, have got trapped in their own net. ................... A harassed Nishant Saini, **, has filed a retaliatory complaint in court seeking the arrest of his wife, Anjali Dargan, **, for “forcefully giving dowry which he never demanded”.......... Police officer Asha Sinha, who helped Dargan, is also in trouble. Metropolitan magistrate (MM) Saurabh Pratap Singh Laler ordered deputy commissioner of police (DCP) of south Delhi to take action against the officer for failing to submit a report despite the court’s order........... Saini, an architect, married Dargan, an executive with ITC, in ****. But their relationship soured within*months. Dargan slapped a dowry case against Saini, alleging that he had taken Rs** lakh in dowry and forcibly kept her jewellery and stridhan (bride’s article) worth Rs** lakh. Though Saini refuted the charges, he spent*days in Tihar jail. He also lost his job. ........ Later, Saini filed a counter complaint with the police, accusing his wife and in-laws of forcing him to accept the money he never demanded. When the police refused to register his complaint Saini approached the court under Section *** (*) of the CrPc, seekingaction against his wife and her parents under Section * of the Dowry Prohibition Act (DPA). Section * DPA is a non-bailable, non compoundable (cannot be withdrawn), cognisable offence for giving, taking or abetting giving or taking of dowry. It carries a minimum punishment of*years in prison. On the other hand, Section ***A (cruelty for dowry), which Dargan had filed against Saini, has a penalty of*years in prison. ....... Based on Saini’s complaint the judge, who was convinced that the wife was involved in the dowry offense, ordered officer Sinha to find out whether the money was willingly given by the woman’s family or under pressure from the groom’s side. However, Sinha, who had earlier opposed Saini’s bail, failed to submit a report and told the court that no case could be registered against the bride or her parents. ...... “Instead of conducting the investigation, the police were trying to save the accused, forcing us to move a contempt of court application against Sinha,” Saini’s lawyer Pradip Nawani said. Thejudge directed Sinha’s senior officers to take action against her for contempt of court. ....... Conceding that many women were misusing dowry laws to settle scores with their husbands, the Delhi high court laid down guidelines for the Delhi Police to be followed during investigations in dowry related complaints and IPC-498A. It said in case an educated woman gets married to a person despite a dowry demand, she and her family become accomplices under section * of DPA.......

"Thats right that exact reason can't be determined. Its a mixed bag. While at the same time if we can't determine then we can't say that suicide was due to marriage............... why we dont use words like : employed man, unemployed man, rich man, smoker, drunkard, gambler, in debt, business losses, corruption, exploited by others, overloaded, etc .............. ................ . .. . .. . . I don't think woman's suicide is "automatically" a dowry case."---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------you have got it all wrong. While the suicide of men is passed off as yet another one, and recorded only as suicide, suicide of women is automatically a dowry case if she is married. Read the law. Hence, when suicide of men cannot be recorded as due to marital issues, how can society be in denial? It is obvious that when a person (man or woman) commits suicide, something has gone terribly wrong in their lives. There has been pain and injury. Even if the pain is due to employment or debts, it is understood that the person has undergone severe torture from society. It is nothing but social oppression. Moreover, when wife tortures husband, the husband never reports it because he will be ridiculed and laughed at. So, when such a man commits suicide, it is passed off as just another case. so, are you getting what I am saying? THE LAW IS BIASED; SO IS SOCIETY BIASED AGAINST MEN. HENCE, SUICIDE OF MEN INSPITE OF BEING 3 TIMES HIGHER THAN WOMEN IS PASSED OFF WITHOUT ANY DEBATE AND QUESTIONING. FOCUS IS ONLY ON SUICIDE OF WOMEN. WHO CARES WHEN A MAN COMMITS SUICIDE? MEN ARE DISPOSABLE. WHY IS THE LAW NOT HOLDING WIVES RESPONSIBLE WHEN MEN COMMIT SUICIDE? AFTERALL THE LAW HOLD HUSBANDS RESPONSIBLE WHEN WOMEN COMMIT SUICIDE (example, the recent suicide of a model in Mumbai)

"While the real fact is that many "murders" too goes in cold bags. If we are talking about police and corruption... then always the surviver suffers !!!! Corrupt people makes money and that is bitter realty, they won't care the gender... do you think that Police care Girls ! .... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Why talk about that? Murders of women or men can go without any investigation if there is exchange of money. I am not talking about that. I am talking about the bias in the law which is a reflection of the bias in the society against men. Yes, police may not care about women; but they are forced to care for women by the law at the cost of men. Also, police favour women because of political correctness; they favour women because it is easy. They favour women so that they can get sexual favours from them. This is all understood.

"Do you think that Ladies who seek help from NGOs (not all) get favor for free ! (financially and ****** ) .... Many people enjoy pleasures by helping girls. As small as "girls' smile" (and many other things) can make man happy......------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------They may get favour for free if the NGO is genuine. Or else, the NGO will make money through her by asking her to file 498A against the men and then by extorting. If a girl is in trouble (real or made up), there will be a million men to help her. When a guy is in trouble, he is all alone. This is a reality. Men always seek too appease women at the cost of other men or men's rights. Infact the problem is with men more than women. MEN ARE THE WEAKER SEX DUE TO THEIR WEAKNESS FOR THE WEAKER SEX.

"Do you think that divorced and fouur-ninnty-eigght -ladies get any social respect ?.... How many of people will get their son married to them ? Don't people help them just to explore any opportunity ! while on the other hand none will marry his son to such ladies !!! These don't get sympathy, they do get some help by few males (expecting return gift)"-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you are speaking about the **st century, divorced women are not treated in any way different. Divorce is no big deal for women or men. Don't get caught in a time wrap my friend. About ***a women, it is a mixed bag. Victims of dowry harassment whether genuine or not get sympathy from society. Whereas victims of ***a are socially ostracized. BTW, I am talking about society's mindset against men which is well reflected in the laws.

jakjil, It is one of the rarest cases where the court and system has accepted to file a dowry case against the givers while always cases are filed against takers. This is prima facie a clear case of falsehood and the complainant has misused the law. But tell me how many such cases have been filed against women who admitted to giving dowry? It is a handful. And the NCW and WCD now want to remove that clause which makes giving dowry an offense. That means, only taking dowry is an offense; giving dowry is not.

Agreeing with you, law is biased or it is more favorable towards woman. Society is not biased... its cruel. It aligns itself with the powerful. NGO members in many case will exploit woman too. .. . .You are right Police may favor woman so that they can make money and can be legally correct at the same time..... ...... . ..... ...... ." If a girl is in trouble (real or made up), there will be a million men to help her"......... that I already said indirectly..... many (most) males are cheap....but it is naturally correct too.... let me make a cheap funny statement...." If most of men were gay.... Girl in trouble would be left all alone ! " ........ But still... who are helping girl > men..... who are not helping boy > men !!!! who is crying with this attitude of men > again men ..... .. . .. ........ other point I didn't mean that Divorced woman are not acceptable , I meant 498a girls are not acceptable ..... ... ....... ...... ...... ...... I don't think that giving dowry won't be offense , in contrary to this it will get stronger in future when more and more man-organization oppose it.......... ....... ....... and also .... in many judgments, definition of dowry is getting narrower too..... even demanding gifts on occasions may not be considered as dowry !!!! ... see... dowry is related to MARRIAGE.... if demand is NOT related to marriage then IT MAY NOT be considered as dowry .... It can be a case of harassment but not deadly dowry prohibition act .... - ------- ---- -- -- -- --- -- - - - - and in My View ( just my view do not have legal value at present )..... The Gifts given at the time of marriage or Daan (donating) given along with Kanyadaan CAN ONLY BE CONSIDERED AS DOWRY..... other demands may be cheapness of incapable bridegroom (who don't have capability to buy either Hero Honda or Bajaj City but dreams Honda city) .... but that is not Dowry.... . ... ...... .... Whatever that is GIVEN that only is dowry.... other things are demands ........ so Dowry is from giver only... not from accepter .... "Jo diya wo Dahej, jo manga wo Bheekh :cyberBhai" .. . .... .... . so in my view... for Dowry only the giver is responsible....

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