You’re not afraid of rejection - Dealing with the Death of a spouse - Discussion Forum

That’s right...the reason a lot of you get rejected with women is because you SABOTAGE your own approach. Sure, you’ll go up and run your so-called "Game", but that voice inside of you that fears all this initiation will keep telling you, "If she accepts you, you’re more screwed than you were before!" That will leak out in your mannerisms, in your nervous habits, in your awkward speech. She will see this and HONOR YOUR REQUEST for rejection. When you go to pick up a woman, you’re not just picking HER up. She’s not livestock. You pick up a whole EXPERIENCE. You pick up a lifestyle change, EVEN if you’re only with that girl long enough to get laid, EVEN if there’s no relationship involved. Women aren’t a commodity, they’re an experience. What pushes you outside your comfort zone isn’t expressing interest in the product, it’s completing the transaction. It’s COMMITTING to whatever the experience brings. So the first thing you need to do...is decide whether you really WANT to have a go with women. It’s not something you can do half-way, or they will reject you every single time. You either want women in your life YES, or you want women in your life NO. And if you DO want them, then that doesn’t mean you can just approach, get digits, and then have booty on-tap like running water. It means you’re gonna be taken on a bit of a ride. Like getting on a roller coaster, you can pretend that you’re afraid you won’t be THIS TALL enough to ride, but your real fear is that you WILL be, and once that lap-bar comes down, you’re committed to whatever comes next for at least the next several minutes.