dealing in making the child get compatible with his foster parent?

Hi devo dont worry about that. Who will be comes next in ur life definetly he will accept ur child too. So dont be hurry in choosing ur partner. Keep him inform about ur condition for accepting the child too. Every thing will be alright.

Your child is not your problem. It is YOU! Children generally accept more easily than adults. Further from your message, I glean that you have taken it for granted that your child is a bothersome, rebellious, nonaccepting, etc. etc. Take courage that your child is also an extension of you and if you can accept changes so does your child and most importantly your child is a creation of nature and has inherent qualities of intelligence and wisdom. It will eventually work out quite well. You need to learn to get a little less stressed out and more relaxed.

Hi Deboshree, It' a general belief that after separation kids remember their parents & do not accept their foster parents. Its not actually the kid whom we have to make compatible with parents. Both the parents need to handle it properly.New father needs to take it up wisely so that kid does not feel that he is a new man in family & is forced on him. You will have to play bigger role as you are the only person from the past whom he knows & on whom he can rely on.The above behaviour mentioned by you is seen only in case kids are desserted by parents & they are mishandled.This can happen even if the kids are brought up by bilogical parents. So it has nthn to do with foster parents. I guess your son is less than 5 years & he has been already away from his father since one year. Kids normaly forget quickly & your son is small remember it at a later age. Find the right match & just go ahead! all the best cheers~ sidh

hello debo, all i can see with ur post that first you are not clear for what u want man ? if u are looking for picture perfect family where u ur hausband gives best smile to life than your first husband was right choice..now that for what ever reason we hav made decisions to come out i apreiciate it and accept it too...same way u accept the fact that new journey you want to take canot start with picture perfect family u need to work on the issue as u hav son who can understand things now..my advice is make him first understand that u r looking for new person as ur frnd in life and will be happy if he also likes the new frnd..donot rush to kid saying that u shd start calling your frnd (or if u want to call ur husband)as daddy from day one..whether u like it or not he has already daddy and will surely will rebel with that word if shared.... ..as far your new man accepting the child i think ur child is greatest filter u shd get best people approching u once they know u hav a child..u shd go for a person who knows and understands responsibilty of ur child rather than falling for looks ,money or any other reason..u shd not bother abt intial troubles and keep in mind that u need to work on with realations and will not get any thing ready made..all the best.. donot worry abt child u take his help infact he will guide u to choose better person for u..trust me.

Hi shasi welcome back after many days. And wel said to debo. U r absolutly right. I know as a woman u can understand better the said situation. As my concern re-marriage can only start with understand and compromise except few good examples. Then its grow up with love and devotion.

Be faith on god, your problem will be solved. Be honest always. One good person will help you.

that is good vijay nice hope to her.... hello hidayat i was little busy so was not available i feel happy when i see u talking so positive . hope ur search is going fine...

Thanks shashi for u lovly hope. I think i got my dreamed partner and very soon i am going to meet her and her family. They sent me invitation for early meeting. Hope all will be settel soon.

Thanks shashi for ur lovly hope. I think i got my dreamed partner and very soon i am going to meet her and her family. They sent me invitation for early meeting. Hope all will be settel soon.

I david from africa, hidayat Hi devo dont worry about that. Who will be comes next in ur life definetly he will accept ur child too. So dont be hurry in choosing ur partner. Keep him inform about ur condition for accepting the child too. Every thing will be alright