A week on this site, my experience

cando My profile was active on this site for a week. I found the most difficult job to be to decline/reject requests. While we are all adults, I did not at all enjoy the process at all. Reject/Decline is a strong judgement about people I do not know. The second thing I felt was as though the entire world was watching me. I became very self conscious even at the ripe age of 45. I immediately deactivated my profile, as I think I am not ready for such a harsh process. It was equally uncomfortable to get onto chat. This being my first time being on chat with people I do not know. I mean what do you talk ? I was at a complete loss. Also, I constantly worried about my child. I almost felt as though I was being disloyal to my child by finding myself a spouse ! How illogical the mind is. On the positive note I met a very decent gentleman on this site, and I can say I gained good friend. I realized, that I would best prefer bumping into someone suitable, a more face to face than the internet playing mediator for me. I might not come back here or I just might ( a I am a gold member :), but blessings to thosw who can brave this process.

You have very nicely expressed the feelings of a lady active on this web site. There will be so many requests and it must indeed be difficult to separate the genuine people from those who are not genuine. But the silver lining is, despite all this, you can have a few good friends even if you are not able to tie the knot. I completely agree with you and appreciate your comment which is quite revealing.

First marriage is very much difficult now a days then what more to say about the second marriage. Can we be a genuine friends. anand.