"Phising" and how to avoid getting trapped

hi samy , thanks for teaching me new term phising. i think site developers should have some way of filtering the profiles they get. still ? let me think more and get back to u

Mr. Samy how can u difine that who is real victum and who is not. I never met any * here with their real face. I dont think every * who is here or any other matrimonal site is serious about re marriage. They all creats their files to enjoy the fun only. I can say specialy the womans. God knows for whom they r searching for. I mentioned earliar that in *nd marriage u cant expect the ***% perfectness in guys to whom u r searching for. Yes u can try for provid more pefectness to him/her for happy future. If both side try to provide the same then then should be a happy family. U cant believe i have so many words to explain. But dont know how to express my self.

hidayat, i am new user so donot know much about the site still u cannot blame woman like this men are more for such activities ,

Thanks for the opinion Hidayat. What I am trying is to get the members (including yourself) to discuss how one can avoid falling into the traps of those who are fake (both men and women!). What are the strategies they use (both hidden and open) to lure a genuine member. Let us focus on the possible strategies (baits) of those who are here for "phising" and not take the sides of one particular gender. Wish I made my point clear.

I am sorry shashi i am not agree with u and not disagree too. Cause u r dealing with male and me with womans. So we both have difference experience. What i said i am suffering that. I want to ask u a question what is urs imaginations from 2nd marriage. I mean why u want to remarriage. Plz do reply. For me i want a best freind whom i lost few years ago. But i think no 1 can understand my feelings except widows or real victum of divorcees. Now dont tell me that every divorcee womans are real victum. Thats all.

I am sorry shashi i am not agree with u and not disagree too. Cause u r dealing with male and me with womans. So we both have difference experience. What i said i am suffering that. I want to ask u a question what is urs imaginations from 2nd marriage. I mean why u want to remarriage. Plz do reply. For me i want a best freind whom i lost few years ago. But i think no 1 can understand my feelings except widows or real victum of divorcees. Now dont tell me that every divorcee womans are real victum. Thats all.

ok point here is loosing some one was ur concern and u want to fill that vaccum fine. accepted but i did not get meaning of real victim of divorce, so as far as my opinion is concerned i want to marry becz i think i am ready now, what happened to me was sad as i st marrige still i donot want to tell that i was victim but can tell i emerged as a surviour. lot of things happen in life we loose something and we miss... but think about people who never found one and have to live ...i ment good that u found friend in first but if some people could not relate i think there is no harm in trying again. they too have equal reason... i knw my answer is not complete i think i can answer only this much

Sorry i cant explain my feelings in english i will try to explain in hindi. Shashi koi bhi kisi ki jagah nahi le sakta haan apni jagah alag jarur bana sakta hai. Aur mujhe aisi hi life partner ki jarurat hai. Real victim se mera matlab tha sasural me satayi gayi aurat. Na ki apni nasamjhi se baat ka batangarh bana kar talak lene wali aurat. Aap profile padhiye unn auraton ki. Unme jyadatar me mismatch ke baare me likha hoga. Mismatch my foot. Shaadi ke wakt ya shaadi karne se pahle kya aankhe band thi unki jo tab mismtch nazar nahi aaya. Asal me unhe nibhana hi nahi aata. Aapne dekha hoga ki biwi ki death ke 6 month ya ek saal ke andar kuch log shaadi kar lete hain. Maine 6 saal ke baad ye faishla kiya. Kyun? Ishki do wajah hai pahli wajah main apni biwi ko deewangi ki hadd tak pyar karta tha. Uske marne ke baad jeene ki tammana hi khatam ho gayi thi. Do baar sucide attempt bhi kar chuka hun aur dono baar maut ne mujhe dhoka de diya. Aaj jeena chahta hun par akela jee nahi pa raha hun. Ish liye ek sathi ki talash me hoon. Dushri wajah main batana nahi chahta. That reason is very personal. Sorry main kuch jyada hi jazbaati ho gaya hoon.

Badi muddat ke baad tumhari bikhri yaadon ne mujhe jhinjhoda hai. Aaj fir kisine mere dil ke taaro chhed chhoda hai. Jaane se pahle to soch liya hota sirf ek baar. Mujhe ish jahan me tumne kiske sahare chhoda hai. Din guzar jata hai par raat thahar jaati hai. Teri yaadein mujhe ab bada tadfaati hain. Jeene ko majbur hun par jiyun to jiyun kaise. Dil ke jazbaat bhadakte hain kanhu to kanhu kaise.

It would be nice if someone translates what Hidayat wrote in the previous*postings. Anyway, Shashi has put it right "...i emerged as a survivor". This could be true in both cases of male and female divorcees! If I have to think along Hidayat's way then every divorcee is either victimized by the spouse/spouse family or by themselves (knowingly or unknowingly!). Well we do not need to think that way. It all depends on what u consider as victimization. O.K guys lets go back to discussing "Phising" and the baits!