Conditions at the time of second marriage

you are right. I have read profiles where even less educated persons want spouse earning 5 lakhs.High earning persons also don't lessen their criteria for opposite sex. By behaving in this manner they remain unmarried for a long time. Conditions such as caste,language,place,salary etc are put up. I request the team of secondshaadi.com to encourage intercast,interstate marriages where both persons are willing to adjust.Both should reduce their criteria for the opposite sex, meet personally if possible and then decide. Do something in this direction in the profile that are put up.

every person is lovable.It does not matter how you are made,economics sweeps it all .in that sense if money is there to eat and you are medically insured,other things dont matter.

But maybe its because the conditions are being put for a reason..actually the second time round the search for a marriage partner becomes a lot of what the ex partner was not all that was lacking in the ex we are seeking in the new partner..i would say that profession, salary, complexion etc have been indian marriage rules for centuries...and its not going to change at all.

Members looking for second marriage. PLEASE note, you have already lost the oportunities to CHOOSE, make conditions, demand what your ex-spouse did not posses. etc. Your Biological clock is running against your age. It is the time to adjust with what is available and what can be achive. All materialistic demands are perishible. No one can guarantee of Job, House, Bank Balance and circumstance. Changes are inevitable. Change your thinking, accept who you feel 20% compatible, rest 80% will automatically fall in line. Do not condition the marriage.

I completely agree with you. You can't expect other person to be 100% perfect , when we are not. Try to compromise and live and accept the fact the life is not the bed of roses . Be prepared for the ups and downs in life. And i feel lowering the expectations would defintely lead to a happy marriage.

Very interesting topic! :-) I think - it is human to expect and there will always be pre-conditions to any relationship. However, most of times, we fail to discern between what we need and what we want, and this lack of clarity leads to unreasonable (sometimes laughable) expectations. At the same time, second marriage is NOT a compromise, 'cos anything which is a compromise has decadent roots, and does not have the capability to grow. One should guard against "desperation" and "rebound effect", also. I'd rather state - second marriage stems from a greater degree of maturity and more clarity. (Nevertheless, it's a gamble, after all). Specifically, in case of secondshadi.com - I haven't come across profiles, where members are very selective or choosy. I suggest the members should have a high degree of clarity in their minds and that should also reflect in their profiles. (I think - if the first marriage broke because of financial reasons, the person has all the reasons to state that he/she is looking for a financially stable spouse. And as the case maybe). So, in my opinion - Second marriage is not a compromise / lesser option. It is an opportunity to correct what went wrong in first case.

Marriages never ran and would never run on conditions. Its not a Sauda.

Marriages never ran and would never run on conditions. Its not a Sauda.

I think its always better to be truthful in what you are looking forward in your partner's profile...You cannot control or change a person's outlook. Whats not important for you ..could be important for somebody else..I think at the end what's important is that "click"...If both of you click together than every other aspect automatically becomes secondary.

it is really very traumatic experience to get that person out of my heart with whom i stayed for 10 yrs and now if i get someone how could i be sure with him .bcoz heart says something else and mind says the other.