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Allow Daughters to take responsibility legally


rohandharesh
Seeing the news article, Moms held for bid to swap babies, I noticed one interesting thing, “One of the women, who has*daughters, wanted a male child while the other, who has a son, wanted a girl”.


One might argue that it is such attitude that leads to “Female Feticide”, however, “Reality is seldom the same as perception”, like the perception that women are the oppressed lot and the reality that men commit more suicides.


Similarly, in the area of female feticide, it is a perception that it happens because a daughter is a burden and people tend to have sons, however, that is not the reality.


If we note carefully Section 125 of the Code of Criminal Procedure (CrPC) allows parents to seek maintenance from sons only and not from daughters. Thus, no parent can legally enforce a daughter to take care of them in old age, even if the daughter wants to and the couple has no son.


It is but obvious that anyone would vouch for a son, after all, who would want a child who cannot be enforced legally to take responsibility when expected. It is not that people have some extra love for sons; it is just that the society wants a DISPOSABLE MALE to discharge all the duties and responsibilities.


If daughters are allowed to take responsibility legally, not only will the problem of female feticide be addressed effectively, men will also get “Freedom of Choices”, currently lacking in their gender role in the society.


Women’s activist, instead of suggesting effective solutions for addressing the problem of the skewed gender ratio, indulged in rhetoric and large-scale male bashing. They used the issue of skewed gender ratio as a journey to achieve the destination of biased, gender obsessed, and unconstitutional anti-male laws to castrate men and in turn led to a society where all laws are protecting women while men are committing suicides in skyrocketing numbers burdened in a society that does not accept them and only expects from them and at the same time no improvement in the skewed gender ratio as well.


It clearly tells us that women’s activists have miserable failed in their projected objective and the only way to solve the crisis is to allow women to take responsibility legally.
Replies(2) | 2010-Aug-28

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Many parents have a mistaken belief that the male child will be a support for parents in the old age. The government has tried to counter this mindset by providing more means of social security to the elderly, but such schemes only target the educated urban population, not the rural villager. Thus, parents still look upon their children as a main source of support in their old age. They fail to realise that daughters, if well brought up and educated, can also be a great support to their parents - not just financially, but emotionally as well. When parents fall ill, who is more likely to look after them? A daughter or a son? Who can parents expect more love and companionship from? A son, a daughter-in-law or a daughter? When a mother wants to go shopping, buy a sari, a salwar kameez or a jewellery item, who does she go with, her son or her daughter? It is believed that a daughter is only yours till the day she gets married, because she leaves the home and goes away. The son, however, lives with the parents for his entire life, providing them with companionship and support in their old age. The fact is that the reverse is true: a son is a son till he gets a wife, a daughter is a daughter till the end of your life. The bias against daughters arises largely because of economic reasons. Sons are viewed as "social security" in areas where resources are scarce, avenues for savings limited, and public support for the elderly non-existent. Daughters, on the other hand, require large dowry payments at the time of marriage. In fact, one of the direct causes of the preference for the birth of a male child and the increasing cases of female infanticide is the dowry system. It is imperative that we abolish this evil which can only be achieved through education. The preference of a girl child is mostly seen in India and China, and in these countries female infanticide is practiced on a large scale. Female infanticide is prevalent amongst the uneducated rural population of India, who live in extreme poverty, and this brutal practice reflects the low status accorded to women - especially in those countries with dominant 'patriarchal' societies. However, the abortion of a female foetus is a common practice in upper middle-class and wealthy urban Indian families as well. It is shameful to know that no other country in the world prevents a doctor from disclosing the sex of an unborn foetus, except India. Why? Because once parents get to know that they are carrying a girl child, many opt for an abortion. Even more deep-rooted is the perception that the woman is inferior to the man. This is a perception which runs through the mind of every Indian - educated or not and it is visible in every aspects of our culture. When the well-meaning aunt of a groom laughs and jokingly says "Aakhir hum ladke waale hai!" (After all, we're from the boy's side), or when the proud grandmother gifts her daughter-in-law diamond solitaire earrings on the birth of her grandson and a simple gold pendant on the birth of a granddaughter. The next time you as a daughter expect your parents to bow down to your husband's wishes, or as a husband, if you expect timely 'gifts' from your in-laws, remember that you are only contributing to further strengthen the roots of this accursed evil.


rohandharesh
03-Sep-10

hus, parents still look upon their children as a main source of support in their old age. They fail to realise that daughters, if well brought up and educated, can also be a great support to their parents - not just financially, but emotionally as well. When parents fall ill, who is more likely to look after them? A daughter or a son? Who can parents expect more love and companionship from? A son, a daughter-in-law or a daughter?--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- THE SONS ARE TREATED AS FREE ATM MACHINES, THE PROTECTORS AND PROVIDERS OF SOCIETY AND FAMILY AND HENCE THE PROBLEM OF FEMALE FOETICIDE. IT IS NOT ON ACCOUNT OF LOVE FOR SONS. IT IS STUPID ON YOUR PART TO SUGGEST THAT DAUGHTERS ARE BETTER SUPPORT EMOTIONALLY AND FINANCIALLY FOR PARENTS. THE ENTIRE SOCIETY IS PROTECTED BY MEN - AT THE BORDER AND DURING CALAMITIES BY SOLDIERS. IF NOT FOR THEIR SACRIFICE, YOU WOULD NOT BE HERE. IT IS THE SONS WHO HAVE EARNED AND WORKED HARD FOR THE FAMILIES. IF THIS IS NOT LOVE, WHAT IS IT THEN?----------------------- When a mother wants to go shopping, buy a sari, a salwar kameez or a jewellery item, who does she go with, her son or her daughter?--------------------------------------------------------------------------ARE YOU KIDDING? YOU ARE ONLY TALKING OF SHOPPING. WHO SACRIFICES LIVES PROTECTING THE BORDERS? DAUGHTERS OR SONS?------------------------------ It is believed that a daughter is only yours till the day she gets married, because she leaves the home and goes away. The son, however, lives with the parents for his entire life, providing them with companionship and support in their old age. The fact is that the reverse is true: a son is a son till he gets a wife, a daughter is a daughter till the end of your life.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------A SON IS A SON TILL HE GETS A WIFE BECAUSE ONCE HE GETS ONE, HE IS MADE A SLAVE BY HIS WIFE AND SOCIETY. HE HAS TO OBEY HIS WIFE ACCORDING TO FEMINAZIS AND THEIR MALE-FEMINIST LAPDOGS. HE IS CAUGHT BETWEEN THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE AND THE LOVE FOR PARENTS. SECONDLY, A DAUGHTER HAS NO SUCH OBLIGATIONS. HER HOME IS HER HUSBAND'S. SHE GETS AWAY HIS PROPERTY. IF SHE RETAINS HER OLD IDENTITY, THERE CANNOT BE THE FEELING OF ONENESS WITH THE NEW HOUSEHOLD. HENCE, OUR ANCESTORS MADE IT THAT WAY. THIS HAS BEEN MISINTERPRETED BY THE FEMINAZIS.----------------------------------------------------------------- The bias against daughters arises largely because of economic reasons. Sons are viewed as "social security" in areas where resources are scarce, avenues for savings limited, and public support for the elderly non-existent. Daughters, on the other hand, require large dowry payments at the time of marriage. In fact, one of the direct causes of the preference for the birth of a male child and the increasing cases of female infanticide is the dowry system. -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------YOU SAID WHAT I HAVE BEEN SAYING. SONS ARE FREE ATM MACHINES AND UNPAID BODYGUARDS OF SOCIETY. HENCE, THE SOCIETY WANTS THEM TO PROTECT AND PROVIDE THEM. NOT FOR ANY KIND OF REAL LOVE. SECONDLY, THE LARGE NUMBER OF MALE INFANT DEATHS ARE NOT EVEN RECORDED. THEY ARE ALL OVER-LOOKED. ONLY FEMALE DEATHS ARE LOOKED AND TAKEN COGNISANCE OF. ----------------------------------------- It is imperative that we abolish this evil which can only be achieved through education. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------IT IS IMPERATIVE THAT WE ABOLISH THIS EVIL OF TREATED MEN AS PROTECTORS AND PROVIDERS, FREE ATM MACHINES FOR WOMEN!---------------------------------------------------------The preference of a girl child is mostly seen in India and China, and in these countries female infanticide is practiced on a large scale. Female infanticide is prevalent amongst the uneducated rural population of India, who live in extreme poverty, and this brutal practice reflects the low status accorded to women - especially in those countries with dominant 'patriarchal' societies.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------THESE SAME PATRIARCHAL SOCIETIES TREAT MEN AS ATM MACHINES AND UNPAID BODY GUARDS. THEY TREAT MEN BRUTALLY AND TREAT WOMEN AS MORALLY SUPERIOR TO MEN. MOREOVER, THE URBAN WOMEN USE THE PROBLEMS OF RURAL WOMEN AS PROXIES AND MISUSE THAT FOR THEIR OWN BENEFIT------------------------------------- -----------------------------------------------------------------------However, the abortion of a female foetus is a common practice in upper middle-class and wealthy urban Indian families as well. It is shameful to know that no other country in the world prevents a doctor from disclosing the sex of an unborn foetus, except India. Why? Because once parents get to know that they are carrying a girl child, many opt for an abortion. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------THIS IS ALL ONE-SIDED. THE OTHER SIDE IS THAT MEN ARE TREATED AS FREE ATM MACHINES AND UNPAID BODY GUARDS. WHEN A WOMAN IS IN TROUBLE, THE ENTIRE SOCIETY GOES TO HER RESCUE. WHILE ON THE OTHER HAND IF A MAN IS IN TROUBLE, HE IS LAUGHED AT AND RIDICULED.-------------------------------------------------Even more deep-rooted is the perception that the woman is inferior to the man. This is a perception which runs through the mind of every Indian - educated or not and it is visible in every aspects of our culture. When the well-meaning aunt of a groom laughs and jokingly says "Aakhir hum ladke waale hai!" (After all, we're from the boy's side), or when the proud grandmother gifts her daughter-in-law diamond solitaire earrings on the birth of her grandson and a simple gold pendant on the birth of a granddaughter. The next time you as a daughter expect your parents to bow down to your husband's wishes, or as a husband, if you expect timely 'gifts' from your in-laws, remember that you are only contributing to further strengthen the roots of this accursed evil.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------THE SAME SOCIETY TREATS MEN AS MORALLY INFERIOR TO WOMEN. THE SAME SOCIETY TREATS WOMEN AS "WEAKER SEX" AND PROTECTS HER AT THE COST OF MEN. THE SAME SOCIETY TREATS WOMEN AS "FAIRER SEX" AND BESTOWS MORAL SUPERIORITY ON HER. THE SAME SOCIETY SYMPATHISES WITH THE TEARS OF A WOMAN AND LAUGHS AT THE TEARS OF A MAN. SO MALE-FEMINIST LAPDOG, YOU CANNOT EXPECT MEN TO BE FOOLS ANYMORE JUST BECAUSE YOU CANNOT CONTROL YOUR DIC*


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Bhai Sahab Rohandhareshji aapka to lagta nahi ko iraadha hai shaadi ka. Hum logon to karne deejiye.Apna lecture kahi aur ja kar dein.aapka bahut bahut shukriya ..meherbani


rohandharesh
04-Sep-10

STOP LECTURING AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. THANKS

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