Rejection of Separated Profiles

I can understand your pain...but girls want security..which separated man can,t give legally.......i already gone thru this trauma 5*years ....regarding human angle ...no body bother abt human whole system is become insensitive ......

First one needs to understand the whole purpose of SEPERATION by the judicial system. Indian states amd most states in USA do have a mandatory Seperation period. The system uses this last effort to avoid breaking families. Divorce is aliving hell and specially for kids and in India Parents are involved in ararnge marriages so it is heart breaking for them as well. Divorce is not just about 2 people. It is a whole world that comes crumbling down so the states try to prevent it. People who are seperated should used this opportunity to see a window just before the last nail. Actually I suggest that people who are seperated, their family and friends should make them attend divorce care sessions together. Life after Divorce is not a bed of roses either. Lets us say in SS the guy is sepertaed and the gal is divorced. The guy still has option to go back but the gal does not. Sometimes the new breakup will be deadly for gal and will lower her self esteem. People who go thru divorce and have been honest in relationship have difficulty in maintaining their self esteem. Sites like eharmony wont even permit you to register is u are not divorced. So it is not a matter of guy or gal, Heart is a heart if it brealks it hurts...The problen in India is there are other brutal resaons for divorce like dowry and there the guy is evil so seperation wont help because the problem is not relationship but greed. The guy need to be in a different bootcamp...hope this helps.

Thanks for thread of discussion, as per reply of 'Truthinlife' I do understand he is coming from legal and social angle. I do agree that as per law there is mandatory period of seperation that is * months in India (this is as per my knowledge), but you see many Div. cases are pending in court of law and going from years and years, * gentle men above said * years, ya it may go for ** years also. So my question was for people who are in long separation, who have decided not to revert back to same painful contidition as some thing was wrong in past relation that's why he/she went to court with div. petiotion. So he/she took his decision, but court is keeping it pending, may due to lingering of other party etc., so my question for that separted person. Should they live like Sanyasi or they have some future. After all these all are man made systems, so there could be always scope of reform or correction.So guys plz. don't come from legal angle with replies like "Looking for a partner with Saparated status is illegal", "web sites should not allow such people to register etc.". We all know that, what we are talking about is ascope of change and transformation.

cos no one wants to be unsure

Nothing is sure in life, today some one is there, tomorrow that person may die, today's some one is earning good money, tomorrow he / she may not be in position to earn. What was surity of success in last marrg., so in this world every thing is 'Chaan Bhangur'. Then why we are behind every thing written on bond paper ?

Ha ha Ha ..if you want to change the system you need to have one anna hazare.....LOL..otherwise we have to live in this system which is surely not a good ...

I know India needs many Anna Hazare to reforms its systems, including marriage reforms, making it more flexible and gender unbiased.

Well...we can never be sure of that what will happen the next day.. and this time of fast life things make changes every hour..every minute... and people wants surety of life time.... first marriage me bhi to kuch surety li hogi... uska kya hua.... ab second me bhi chahiye...