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10 secrets to a happy marriage

17 Nov 2008 11:29 AM by Sachin Gupta in Wedding

Avoid nagging. This is the age old NO-NO. A marriage can never be on smooth tracks if either of you is in the habit of nagging. If an important issue has to be dealt with it can be done firmly without repeating and re-repeating. Here are some other good tips for a happy marriage:

Avoid arguments of in-laws. This is definitely a very sensitive area. Always steer clear if you want peace to prevail. Each partner is always on the defensive where his/her relatives are concerned. So why tread on thin ice?
Give gifts. No better 'bribe' than a gift! There can be a gift for every occasion. Fights, love statements, thank you, can all be expressed with a gift. This all in addition to the regular birthday, anniversary, Valentine Day gifts that are de rigueur.
Show your pleasure / appreciation when given gifts. Say a thank you when you receive a gift. Think of all the time and effort taken in having gone out and purchased that gift. There may be times when you do not think highly of the gift but please even if you have to fake it - show your appreciation. It will gladden your partner's heart.
Avoid detailed questioning about work, business etc. Be there for your partner if he / she needs you, but don't add on to the pressure.
Try and identify stressful phases. Make yourself available to your partner at such times.
Prepare favourite dishes on and off. A good meal can put anyone in a great mood. And while the way to his heart may be through his stomach... she is no different!
In an argument check your temper. Things said in anger leave an indelible impression. Even if you regret your words later, you can't take them back.
Let there be a balance between give and take. It's all about reciprocity. You give some, you get some. If either partner is a giver or a taker only, the balance will be lost.
Take holidays. Take a break from work and go for a holiday to spend time off together, away from the daily rigmarole. It will rejuvenate your relationship.

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81 Comment(s)

chander :

on 30 Jul 10 at 2:31 PM

Msg to a spl frnd..May the years continue to be good to you. Happy Birthday! You're not getting older, you're getting better. May this year bring with it all the success and fulfillment your heart desires. Wishing you all the great things in life, hope this day will bring you an extra share of all that makes you happiest. Happy Birthday, and may all the wishes and dreams you dream today turn to reality. May this day bring to you all things that make you smile. Happy Birthday! Your best years are still ahead of you. May each and every passing year bring you wisdom, peace and cheer. You'll always be forever young. chanderbhan.sharma52 add the ret gmail

chander :

on 30 Jul 10 at 2:31 PM

LOVE IS LIFE, SO LOVE EVERY BODY, I M AGRRE WITH GESTE

Rahul :

on 26 Jul 10 at 7:21 PM

If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.

arleen :

on 26 Apr 10 at 11:02 AM

fights are there because of these stupid mother-in-laws... they want that his son should only favour her.... if he by-mistake sometimes favours his wife then............ God help daughter-in-laws from mother-in-laws......

sanjay :

on 26 Apr 10 at 11:02 AM

sanjay :

on 26 Apr 10 at 11:02 AM

Somebody up there Loves you Somebody down here cares for you Happy Birthday!!!

sanjay :

on 26 Apr 10 at 11:02 AM

Its a nice feeling when you know that someone likes you, someone thinks about you, someone needs you;but it feels much better when you know that someone never ever forgets your birthday."HAPPY BIRTHDAY".

sanjay :

on 26 Apr 10 at 11:02 AM

A Birthday is A Million Moments, Each holding A Promise Of Fulfillment Of UR Dreams, & ACCOMPLISHMENTS Of Some Special Plans.. Wish U A Very Happy B'DAy

sanjay :

on 26 Apr 10 at 11:02 AM

Dua hai Ki Kamyabi ke har sikhar pe aap ka naam hoga, aapke har kadam par duniya ka salam hoga, Himat se mushkilon ka samana karna hamari dua hai ki waqt bhi ek din aapka gulam hoga. Happy Birthday dear M

Rahul :

on 16 Apr 10 at 9:48 AM

All marriages are happy. It's the living together afterward that causes all the trouble

Rahul :

on 16 Apr 10 at 9:48 AM

One of the good things that come of a true marriage is, that there is one face on which changes come without your seeing them; or rather there is one face which you can still see the same, through all the shadows which years have gathered upon it.

vivek :

on 29 Mar 10 at 11:38 AM

very true :) gud tips !!

suresh :

on 29 Mar 10 at 11:38 AM

Dear Vijay, very honest statement. I also lost my better half*yrs back after prolonged illness. Don`t you agree that a true soul mate who enteres into your life at the age of 25-30 yrs infact necessitates you to redefine yr blood-relations/siblings by virtue of her sheer sacrifices and commitments?

moumita :

on 24 Dec 09 at 9:50 AM

very true very good tips for happy married life

mohammed :

on 22 Dec 09 at 3:18 PM

I think all over the world.. there are divorcing problems only. who is responsible for this in the society.. that is all we people or laws or govts... especially.. wives mothers-mother in laws. creating all the hell.. Almost the 6 prolonged years..we are separated me and my wife... Women means so much respect that I give. but why is that happens to women put their life in to risk, what do they think they achieve.. why cant before marriage you think and what the bride groom expects...all for money..properties..and for the selfishness they come.Is it necessary to leave the family once you got married and go away from your parents...

Jaswant :

on 22 Dec 09 at 3:18 PM

Always be Happy, always wear a smile; Not because life is full of reasons to smile but because ur smile itself is a reason for many others to smile... Good Morning Everybody

Jaswant :

on 22 Dec 09 at 3:18 PM

Always be Happy, always wear a smile; Not because life is full of reasons to smile but because ur smile itself is a reason for many others to smile... Good Morning Vandana Ji..............................(vandanagoyal)

Vipin :

on 18 Dec 09 at 9:59 AM

hi...monika kanpur ---------gm how are you?

Vipin :

on 18 Dec 09 at 9:38 AM

hi.......monika kanpur

Vipin :

on 17 Dec 09 at 7:38 PM

hi.......pooja kaisi ho

vivek :

on 16 Dec 09 at 9:40 AM

I think, Marriage means comptability n not being happy at others self respect no matter hw much u sacrifice avoid arguments in laws are inlaws they cant b ur parents so best funda keep on buttering d mother in law n c how things fall in place coz all guys are mamas pet.

umesh :

on 15 Dec 09 at 6:46 PM

LOVE IS LIFE, SO LOVE EVERY BODY, I M AGRRE WITH GESTE

umesh :

on 15 Dec 09 at 6:46 PM

AAJ TAK KOI BHI MOTHER-IN LAW NE YE NAHI KAHA K MERI BAHU BAHUT AACHI HAI, AUR KOI BAHU NE YE NAHI KAHA K MERI MOTHER-IN-LAW MERI MAA KI TARAH MUJHSE BAHUT PYAR KARTI HAI. THIS IS TRADITION, YE KAB BADLEGA? KYA JYOTI YA PREETI IS TRADITION KO HANGE KRNA HAHENGI?

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