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Your second marriage and wedding

26 Aug 2008 9:10 PM by Sachin Gupta in Wedding
The decision of a second marriage is usually a lot harder to take than it was your first one. You are older, wiser, more life experienced, but at the same time afraid that this marriage can also go wrong. The first thing to do is lay the past to rest. And then have faith in your future. A second marriage is the beginning of a new life for you and your husband. So you have to start it right. Here are some tips that may help you.

1. Don't compare with your last wedding.

2. If you want a religious ceremony see what it is required: if you belong to the Roman Catholic you will need an annulment; if you are Est Europa Orthodox you just talk with the priest (the church allows a second religious ceremonial for those who are divorced); if you are Episcopalian you will need the bishop's permission to remarry; if you are Conservative or Orthodox Jewish, you will need to receive a Get (Jewish divorce) from your ex-husband.

4. Decide if you want a large or a small reception. The etiquette says that for the second marriage the bride should have a shorter veil (or none) and the gown should not be full length. Also the confetti/rice traditions are improper. The same goes for throwing the garter or the bouquet. But if you want to have all these things, nothing should stop you. It is your decision.

5. Write carefully the guests list. Some of them were at your first wedding too and maybe they won't come. But most of them will send presents as a sign of approval of the new wedding. Usually it's better to leave the ex spouse and ex parents in law out. But if you've remained in good terms you may invite them as well.

6. Pay attention to the children. Announce them as soon as possible. Don't let them hear from someone else but you. They may reject the idea of the second marriage and you have to be very diplomatic in treating the issue. If they are happy for you, you may give them responsibilities according to the age (flower girl, ring bearer, best man, bridesmaid) so they feel welcome in the new formed family.

7. Usually the second wedding is paid entirely by the couple. So you have to be very careful about the budget. But if the parents want to help, let them. After all, they are your parents and they want you to be happy.

8. Wit it being the second marriage some legal issues may be required (especially if there are children involved). Talk to your lawyer about them.

9. You may want a honeymoon. Don't go to a location that brings you old memories. Use the time to create new memories.

And most importantly: don't be ashamed to show the world that you are once again in love. You deserve to be happy.

(Courtesy: http://www.henwed.com)


157 Comment(s)

santosh :

on 23 Jun 17 at 10:51 AM

Some mens are giving interest but they niether come to meet nor getting marriage only for negative talking,time pass

Bharat :

on 26 May 17 at 7:08 PM

Girls are accept mee or my prop. then i send maysej but no response So it is worang

hafizur :

on 11 Feb 17 at 11:17 PM

100 % correct must in people time pass

Gilbert :

on 25 Jul 16 at 11:50 AM

I agree with you this exactly happened in my case as well, I had a communication with a women in Ivory coast, she is trying to grab money from me, it is very shameful this women is a british women but very fraud, so be careful.

jagdish :

on 03 Apr 16 at 11:51 AM

When pepal are unmarried they fail to get good life partner after Divorce they want NRI/Decent life partner which is imposible. Very few ppl. found such life partner.

rekha :

on 02 Apr 16 at 1:11 PM

I agree with monalise who deleted her profile due to fake profile. I also really tired to search a serious relation ship but here r many fake people, they have wifes n childrn but they r still time pass with harrasd women. They r not for a serious relationship... i faced this kind of fake people.. really this is ghor kalyug...hamare samaj mai aadmi itna gir chuka hai ki pehle se hi pareshan ladies jo bahut majboori mai ek partner search ker rahi hai unke sath relation banate hai unhe use kerte hai jabki unke ghar mai wife or bacho ke sath bhi reh rahe hai, is side se mujhe bhi ek interest aaya mene accept kiya or 1 saal se jayada is viswas se ki wo aadmi mujhse shadi karega chalti rahi baad mai inquiry karwai to pata chala ki uski family mai to sab theek chal raha hai or wo time pass ker raha tha, mai bahut depression mai hu, please please meri request hai ki jo pehle hi haalar ke maare hai unhe or na sataye please..............

gani :

on 11 Feb 16 at 5:35 PM

Lot of female profiles r fruad and male also

shalini :

on 29 Jan 16 at 11:40 AM

On this site a person,, he approached me for marriage and he made me fool as he played game with me. He talked to me for 2 months and wn i asked him to meet, he stopped talking to me. He involved my parents too so we thought he is a genuine person but one day he got disappeared, i tried to reach him but he was so clever that all his numbers were prepaid and not getting connected . Because of this person i hv been so upset and depressed that i cant believe that he was a fraud. It will take time to get out of this depression. Please be aware of this person. Now he is looking for a new girl.

saurav :

on 30 Nov 15 at 6:53 PM

I am completely agreed with Vijay, I can give a live example of a lady , reside in Hyderabad, her name is MIMI KAR,she lives with her HUSBAND NAME " TIRTHANKAR BOSE" , who works in IBM Hyderabad. Brother of MIMI KAR is a doctor in USA, KAUSHIK KAR, this lady posted her profile in this website, living with her Partner at Hyderabad, and claimed to be separated. when this truth was disclosed, her parents also support with this act, with a statement like "IF SHE CAN GET BETTER CHANCE HERE, SO SHE HAS GIVEN HER PROFILE HERE" and her husband also knows this fact.. in the meanwhile I lost almost *years of time and lot of mental harassment, that time also I post the same topics here, but dont know, how and why the comments has been deleted. As of now she is still living with her Husband, in the same city ( as per her she got div also from that husband only), I believe not only I am responsible for this mistake, the site screening process is also responsible for this. I can provide the all details to the management, If they really want to cross check. I am giving her contact details here for the management. Email ID:- * I can give her/husband mobile no also, If management can contact me on **********

saurav :

on 30 Nov 15 at 6:50 PM

I am completely agreed with Vijay, I can give a live example of a lady , reside in Hyderabad, her name is MIMI Kar,she lives with her parents name " Tirthankar bose , works in IBM Hyderabad, Brother of MIMI KAR is a doctor in USA, Kaushik KAR, this lady posted her profile in this website, living with her Partner at Hyderabad, and claimed to be separated. when this truth was disclosed, her parents also support with this act, with a statement like "IF SHE CAN GET BETTER CHANCE HERE, SO SHE HAS GIVEN HER PROFILE HERE" and her husband also knows this fact.. in the meanwhile I lost almost *years of time and lot of mental harassment, that time also I post the same topics here, but dont know, how and why the comments has been deleted. As of now she is still living with her Husband, in the same city ( as per her she got div also from that husband only), I believe not only I am responsible for this mistake, the site screening process is also responsible for this. I can provide the all details to the management, If they really want to cross check. I am giving her contact details here for the management. Email ID:- * I can give her/husband mobile no also, If management can contact me on **********

cheraghuddin :

on 16 Oct 15 at 10:08 PM

I am looking life partner also and my profile is there but some girl or lady are sending me which is not matching with my requirements why they are disturbing me. you all are right some person are passing time and using this site.

vijaya :

on 22 Sep 15 at 4:12 PM

Hi.Their should be some rules & regulations to enroll in all the matrimonial sites.When we take admission in school or college they see all the geniune documents & then give the admission which is related to our CAREER only but the site which is responsible for GETTING A PARTNER should have some MORE rules to ENROLL or not.Anyone is making any fake profiles & many crimes are happening through these Matrimony sites.This is due to lack of negligence.All this sites should make some kind of arrangement so that the REAL NEEDY Bride/Groom should get a Geniune Partner.Or in future people will loose their TRUST & FAITH from these Matrimonial Sites.**% is a TimesPass Approach.Nobody is Realizing the Seriousness whether they are between **-** or **-**.For the namesake they show interest if Yes then they ask for Number or Email id then Chat & only Chat.Sometimes dating also but End Result Is ZERO.How come some one can waste their precious time on doing timepass.Sorry to say but these sites doesnt help anyone geniunely but it Gives mental stress mostly.May be **-**% people must b getting geniune profile. A HUMBLE REQUEST PLEASE MAKE SOME RULES FOR ENROLLMENT to make these sites also perfect like SCHOOLS /COLLEGE.THANKS.

Raju :

on 17 Aug 15 at 6:49 PM

am very much interested in finding my partner for second Marriage

Smita :

on 04 Aug 15 at 8:58 PM

People are making time pass on this site So please b careful everyone

Smita :

on 30 Jul 15 at 7:49 PM

There are many fake profiles on this site Many people have made more than one profile with different names ,surnames ,mobile no They are only here to influence rich girls n demand money So pls all b careful

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