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Your second marriage and wedding

26 Aug 2008 9:10 PM by Sachin Gupta in Wedding
The decision of a second marriage is usually a lot harder to take than it was your first one. You are older, wiser, more life experienced, but at the same time afraid that this marriage can also go wrong. The first thing to do is lay the past to rest. And then have faith in your future. A second marriage is the beginning of a new life for you and your husband. So you have to start it right. Here are some tips that may help you.

1. Don't compare with your last wedding.

2. If you want a religious ceremony see what it is required: if you belong to the Roman Catholic you will need an annulment; if you are Est Europa Orthodox you just talk with the priest (the church allows a second religious ceremonial for those who are divorced); if you are Episcopalian you will need the bishop's permission to remarry; if you are Conservative or Orthodox Jewish, you will need to receive a Get (Jewish divorce) from your ex-husband.

4. Decide if you want a large or a small reception. The etiquette says that for the second marriage the bride should have a shorter veil (or none) and the gown should not be full length. Also the confetti/rice traditions are improper. The same goes for throwing the garter or the bouquet. But if you want to have all these things, nothing should stop you. It is your decision.

5. Write carefully the guests list. Some of them were at your first wedding too and maybe they won't come. But most of them will send presents as a sign of approval of the new wedding. Usually it's better to leave the ex spouse and ex parents in law out. But if you've remained in good terms you may invite them as well.

6. Pay attention to the children. Announce them as soon as possible. Don't let them hear from someone else but you. They may reject the idea of the second marriage and you have to be very diplomatic in treating the issue. If they are happy for you, you may give them responsibilities according to the age (flower girl, ring bearer, best man, bridesmaid) so they feel welcome in the new formed family.

7. Usually the second wedding is paid entirely by the couple. So you have to be very careful about the budget. But if the parents want to help, let them. After all, they are your parents and they want you to be happy.

8. Wit it being the second marriage some legal issues may be required (especially if there are children involved). Talk to your lawyer about them.

9. You may want a honeymoon. Don't go to a location that brings you old memories. Use the time to create new memories.

And most importantly: don't be ashamed to show the world that you are once again in love. You deserve to be happy.

(Courtesy: http://www.henwed.com)


158 Comment(s)

Smita :

on 30 Jul 15 at 7:49 PM

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Smita :

on 30 Jul 15 at 7:46 PM

There are many fake profiles on this site Many people have made profile more than one profile with different names ,surnames ,mobile no They are only here to influence rich girls n demand money So pls all b careful

monalisa :

on 30 Jul 15 at 9:13 AM

This side is vry helpfull side but so many fake account of fake people here its so sad where r we going to what we find in life what is our culture and what we did with divorce persons so i request to thoes people who have already beautiful n loyal wifes please stay happily with ur life partners and dnt timepass with harrasd womens...please i request from buttom of my heart please....

monalisa :

on 30 Jul 15 at 9:01 AM

Finally i am going to delete my acount from this side evn i am a paid member. Ireally tired to search a serious relation ship but here r many fake people, they have wifes n childrn but they r still time pass with harrasd women. They r not for a serious relationship... i faced this kind of fake people.. This is ghor kalyug...

perveen :

on 21 Jul 15 at 10:48 AM

I would like warn members of ss.com that here many women have fake profile especially from abroad.they write here that seeking groom from **- ** or till **. Few from Ghana n Europe USA TOO. DURING FIRST communication THEY WILL START SHOWING FAKE LOVE FOR YOU AND TRIED TO TRAP YOU BY POSTING SOME VERY SPICY SEXY PICS . AND NEXT DAYTHEY WILL START DEMANDING MONEY OR GIVE YOU SOME PROPOSAL OF million dollars. Please be aware n report same to ss.com

perveen :

on 21 Jul 15 at 9:27 AM

I would like warn members of ss.com that here many women have fake profile especially from abroad.they write here that seeking groom from **- ** or till **. Few from Ghana n Europe USA TOO. DURING FIRST communication THEY WILL START SHOWING FAKE LOVE FOR YOU AND TRIED TO TRAP YOU BY POSTING SOME VERY SPICY SEXY PICS . AND NEXT DAYTHEY WILL START DEMANDING MONEY OR GIVE YOU SOME PROPOSAL OF million dollars. Please be aware n report same to ss.com

perveen :

on 21 Jul 15 at 9:20 AM

RAMA JI, I M REALLY FEEL SORRY FOR THE LIFE SPOILING INCIDENT HAPPENED WITH YOUR DAUGHTER. I TOTALLY AGREED WITH YOU THAT WHEN A GIRL MARRY, HAVE TJOUSAND OF DREAMS IN HER EYES N NEED A GUIDANCE AS A FRUEND FROM HER SPOUSE FOR WHICH SHE LEFT PARENT HOME AND DECIDE TO SPEND LUFE WITH STRANGER. EGO, LIQUOR, EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS . THESE*ELEMENTS ARE responsible FOR SPOILING OF MAXIMUM RELATIONSHIP.

perveen :

on 21 Jul 15 at 9:14 AM

This is right. My box of full of interest where either interest expressed by woman n accepted by me or its vice versa. But no communication till date. So there is no use to accept interest or express interest in the absence of communication.

praveen :

on 11 Jul 15 at 9:08 PM

some womans accepts expression of interest but they are neither responding nor contactingIi dont think they are here for serious relationship only they are here for timepass

agarwal :

on 14 Jun 15 at 7:52 PM

I am looking for a bride who can settle her rest of the life with me in Kolkata at my home. I am interested in court-marriage only. I am a most simple person, NON SMOKER, NON DRINKER and pure-vegetarian. I am living separately and not with my parents after my divorce but in the same building and in same floor in separate flat. Service in private sector. Rs **,*** per month only. With warm regards Anand Agarwal.**********

agarwal :

on 14 Jun 15 at 7:52 PM

I am looking for a bride who can settle her rest of the life with me in Kolkata at my home. I am interested in court-marriage only. I am a most simple person, NON SMOKER, NON DRINKER and pure-vegetarian. I am living separately and not with my parents after my divorce but in the same building and in same floor in separate flat. Service in private sector. Rs **,*** per month only. With warm regards Anand Agarwal.**********

GEORGE :

on 14 Jun 15 at 6:53 AM

THE BEST WAY FOR COUPLES TO AVOID DIVORCE IS FOR THEM TO LEARN ABOUT THE MAIN REASONS FOR DIVORCES IN THE FAMILY COURTS OF KERALA , BEFORE THEIR MARRIAGE. DAILY NEWSPAPERS HAD CARRIED A REPORT STATING THAT ABOUT 30% OF DIVORCES IN TRIVANDRUM DISTRICT WERE DUE TO CHARGES OF IMPOTENCY BY THE WIVES OF I.T. PERSONNEL. WHY NOT DEMAND A COMPLETE MEDICAL CHECK-UP BEFORE THE MARRIAGE ? OBVIOUSLY THE CRIMINALS IN SOCIETY WANT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS SITUATION FOR THEMSELVES. SEX RACKETS ARE QUITE COMMON IN KERALA. THE VICTIMS ARE GIRLS FROM POOR FAMILIES WHO NEED THE MONEY TO PROVIDE "DOWRY" TO THE BRIDEGROOMS !!VIRGINITY IS NOT IMPORTANT FOR SUCH GREEDY MEN . THE CHURCH WILL NOT ALLOW DIVORCE UNLESS ADULTERY IS PROVED . HOW CAN PRE-MARITAL ADULTERY BE PROVED UNLESS VIRGINITY TEST IS MADE MANDATORY , BEFORE MARRIAGE ? MUSLIMS AND HINDUS DO NOT HAVE TO FACE SUCH ANTIQUATED AND OBSOLETE LAWS TO GET A DIVORCE. BY INSISTING ON PROVING ADULTERY , THE CHURCH IS ONLY ENCOURAGING ADULTERY BY THOSE WHO HAVE FILED FOR DIVORCE, DUE TO VARIOUS REASONS LIKE MENTAL CRUELTY , ETC. THE CHRISTIANS REQUIRE EQUALITY BEFORE LAW .

GEORGE :

on 12 Jun 15 at 8:38 PM

INDIAN SOCIETY, WHETHER IN KERALA OR ELSEWHERE HAS NOT STARTED THINKING OF THE DATING SYSTEM WHEREBY THE COMPATIBILITY OF THE MARRIAGE PARTNERS CAN BE GAUGED BY EACH OTHER AND THE PARENTS. MOST PARENTS GO BY HEARSAY OF MARRIAGE BROKERS AND THE ENEMIES OF THE BRIDE OR BRIDEGROOM. THOSE WHO SHOW SEXUAL INTEREST ARE FROWNED UPON AS UNSUITABLE FOR MARRIAGE WHILE THOSE WHO HAVE VERY LITTLE SEXUAL INTEREST (IMPOTENT OR SEMI-IMPOTENT MALES) ARE CHOSEN AS HUSBANDS OF BEAUTIFUL SEXY GIRLS. WHAT A TRAGEDY !! CRIMINALS TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS SITUATION FOR ADULTEROUS LIFE .THE COURTS ALSO ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL KINDS OF SEXPLOITATION DUE TO INORDINATE DELAY IN GRANTING DIVORCE FOR CHRISTIANS. MOST HUSBANDS FIND PLEASURE IN ALCOHOL AND DRUGS , IN KERALA. TOO MANY NEUROTICS . POLITICAL INTERFERENCE IS ALSO QUITE COMMON .

agarwal :

on 09 Jun 15 at 8:50 PM

Marriage is just a waste of time money and energy especially in false 498 a dowry case

sumi :

on 02 Jun 15 at 7:58 PM

Dear All Please be aware of frauds taking place hereby. Some candidates are trying to reach ,specially ladies with bad intentions. They are asking them to deposit money giving some reasons,their requirements ect etc. And in case you fail or unable to do that they disappear and stop communicating to you. Kindly be alert and take care of yourself. Anybody making such request.......you know what it is. All the best

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