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A Guide to Getting Remarried in Style

26 Aug 2008 9:12 PM by Sachin Gupta in Wedding
It seems like everyone has an opinion on second weddings. "You shouldn't wear white" or "You shouldn't have such a fancy second wedding" or even "Eloping is what made the first marriage fail – you have to have a big church wedding this time." If you're planning a second wedding while trying to sort out etiquette from opinions, here's a guide for everything from what to wear to how to register. Don't worry - you're older, you're wiser and you've got some experience under your belt – this time should be a snap, right?

Second Wedding Dresses and Attire

The good news is that the old rule about not wearing white for a second wedding has gone out the window. You can wear whatever color feels and looks good on you. Most brides getting remarried have already had their "Princess in a white dress" moment the first time around, and so opt for a more mature look such as a brocade suit or a simple cocktail dress. However, if you eloped the first time, or simply want to have that Princess moment again, there's no reason why you can't. In fact, as divorce and remarriage becomes an evermore regular part of our society, the possibilities for what a second wedding dress can be are endless.

Ideas for what to wear to a second wedding:

  • a designer dress that you've been salivating over, but couldn't justify its expense – until now

  • an off-white floor-length sheath dress

  • a beautiful suit, in any color

  • especially if you looked like a demure princess the first time, wow 'em with a sexy slip dress

Announcing Your Engagement and Telling Your Ex-Husband or Ex-Wife

The very first people you should tell are your children. You can ask them if they'd rather tell their other parent, or if they prefer that you share the news. If you don't have children, it is certainly not mandatory that you inform your ex-spouse – only tell them if you'd rather they didn't hear it from someone else. Many people find that its easiest to send a letter saying "I wanted to share with you the glad news that John and I are getting married. I've already told our children, and asked them to be a part of the wedding ceremony." Afterwards, in the regular way.

Involving Children in a Second Wedding

If you have children, you may wish to make them a special part of your second wedding. Depending on their age, they may be a flower girl, ring bearer, junior bridesmaid or groomsman, or even the best man or maid of honor. Perhaps they would like to read something during the ceremony, or make a special toast during the reception. Make sure that they are comfortable with their role. If your children are especially young, you may want to invite their other parent to be there.

Something that is becoming more common is to include children in a second wedding with a family vow after the bride and groom's vows. For example, "I, (name), solemnly promise that I will care for you, love you and honor you as my own." Some people also give a small medallion or piece of jewelry, saying something like "Take this as a symbol of our family, and our love for you." Other couples instead will simply ask their officiant to bless them and declare them one united family. are perfect for second weddings as well.

One couple that I knew included their children's names on their invitations, saying "Diane Jones and Mark Smith invite you to join them as they celebrate their wedding, and together with their son Winston Jones, become one family." In this case, the bride was a widow. Divorced couples will want to make sure their ex-spouses are comfortable with such wording.

Registering and Wedding Gifts for a Second Wedding

Rules of etiquette state that gifts are not mandatory for a second wedding. This is because traditionally wedding gifts are to help a couple set up their household, and presumably, second time brides and grooms already have their own households. However, gifts are now much more common for a second wedding. You can register just as you did for your first wedding. You may wish to register for more fun things such as art work, or at a store like Sears where you can register for everything from furniture to electronics as well as home goods.

Bridal Showers for a Second Wedding

For the same reason that wedding gifts aren't always given, bridal showers for a second-time bride are not that common. Your friends may insist on throwing one. If so, look for an unusual theme such as "stock the liquor cabinet" where guests are asked to bring either glassware, bar accessories, or a favorite bottle of liquor. Of course, you'll have to have the guests over soon to enjoy the success of such a shower!

Who Pays for a Second Wedding

Typically the bride and groom split the costs of a second wedding evenly. Whether or not they contributed to the costs of your first wedding, you shouldn't expect parents or relatives to chip in. Of course, if they offer, you may accept their help graciously.

(Courtesy: http://weddings.about.com)


53 Comment(s)

Geste :

on 27 Aug 10 at 10:33 AM

You are right namarta.. tali ek hath se nahi bajti..this is basically a joint efforts...care is the most important instrument in any relations..if care is lacking means there is less attachment...as i said ki doono ko wishwash dilana parta hai ki woh such main ek doosre ko chahate hai aur ek doosre se door nahi rah sakte...

vikas :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:25 AM

WOMEN... Woman Knows Her Place Barbara Walters of Television's **/** did a story on gender roles in Kabul, Afghanistan, several years before the Afghan conflict. She noted that women customarily walked * paces behind their husbands.She recently returned to Kabuland observed that women still walk behind their husbands. From Ms. Walter's vantage point, despite the overthrow of the oppressive Taliban regime, the women now seem to walk even further back behind their husbands and are happy to maintain the old custom. Ms. Walters approached one of the Afghani women and asked, "Why do you now seem happy with the old custom that you once tried so desperately to change?" The woman looked Ms. Walters straight in the eyes, and without hesitation said, "Land Mines." MORAL OF THE STORY: BEHIND EVERY MAN IS A SMART WOMAN .

Geste :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:25 AM

:-)

vikas :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:25 AM

We may all benefit from this simple rule.... A rule for life. Keep this philosophy in mind the next time you either hear or are about to repeat a rumor. In ancient Greece (*** - *** BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom. One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance that ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?" "Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test." "Triple filter?" "That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it." "All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?" "No, on the contrary ..." "So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?" The man shrugged, a little embarrassed. Socrates continued, "You may still pass the test though, because there is a third filter the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?" "No, not really ..." "Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?" The man was defeated and ashamed. This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.

vikas :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:25 AM

men are ruled by women.... One day, there was a catastrophic event that caused all living creatures >on Earth to die. To sort things out, everyone went to heaven. >God came and said, "I want the men to form*lines. One line for the >men who ruled their women on Earth and the other line for the men who >were ruled by their women. Also, I want all the women to go with St. >Peter." With that said and done, the next time God looked, the women >were gone and there were*lines. >The line of men who were ruled by their women was 1,000 miles long, and >in the line of men who ruled their women, there was only one man. >God became angry and said, "You men should be ashamed of yourselves. I >created you in my image and you were all whipped by your mates. Look at >the only one of my sons who stood up and made me proud. Learn from him! >Tell them, my son, how did you manage to be the only one in this line?" >The man replied, "I don't know, my wife asked me to stand here." >

Geste :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:25 AM

&#****;H*W FRIENDSHIP ENDS?

Both friends will think the other is busy & will not contact,
thinking it may be disturbing.
As time passes both will think; let the other c*ntact.
After that each will think why should I contact *st.
Here Your love will be converted into Hate.
You will eventually forget each other.

So keep in touch with your friends now!!!

kumar :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:23 AM

Aapne bilkul sahi kaha sanjay bhaiya.me2 think lyk this aur jyadatar yahi karan hota hai dosti tutne ka.

Geste :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:23 AM

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Geste :

on 26 Aug 10 at 11:23 AM

Kumar sahib aap bhi is desert Ice land main hai...chalooo koi to nazar aaya...achcha laga aapko dekh kar... but where is our other lovely frnds ..who were very active some time back..kya un subko apni manzil mil gai hai kya?? yaan woh bhi search karte karte thak gai hai???

roopa :

on 25 Aug 10 at 11:30 AM

in the end, what married the most is not how u get married, but how well u stay after that

vikas :

on 23 Aug 10 at 8:21 PM

MARRIAGE.... A woman awoke during the night to find that her husband was not in bed.She went downstairs looking for him. He was sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of coffee in front of him. He appeared to be in deep thought, just staring at the wall. She saw tears rolling from his eyes as he sipped his coffee. "What's the matter with you, my dear? Why are you down here at this time of the night?" she asked. "Do you remember twenty years ago when we were dating and you were only 16?" he asked. "Yes, I do," she replied. "Do you remember when your father caught us while dating?" "Yes, I do remember," she replied. "Do you remember when he shoved that shotgun in my face and said, "Either you marry my daughter or spend twenty years in jail?" "Yes, I do," she said, getting a little teary- eyed herself at his fond recollection. He wiped another tear from his cheek and said, "You know... I would have been released today."

Geste :

on 23 Aug 10 at 11:09 AM

hi good mornning frnds

Geste :

on 17 Aug 10 at 10:27 AM

Never blame any day in your life. Good days give u happiness, Bad days give u experience. Worst days give u a lesson. Have a good morning and great day ahead

Geste :

on 17 Aug 10 at 10:27 AM

"Deepest feelings of my heart while praying for you ,

May ALLAH

Convert
Ur

Discomforts To Comforts,

Ur

Pains To Gains,

Ur

Minimum To Maximum,

Ur

Losses To Profits,

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Tears To Smiles,

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Sorrows To Pleasures,

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Bad-wishers To Well-wishers,

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Debts To Credits,

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And make these Everlasting! (Ameen).

Geste :

on 17 Aug 10 at 10:27 AM

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